Sheila Bender

<span>Sheila Bender</span>
Sheila Bender is an author, poet, writing coach and founder of WritingItReal.com, a website dedicated to helping those who write from personal experience. The newest of her many books on writing include Creative Writing DeMystified, Writing in a Convertible with the Top Down co-authored with Christi Glover, Sorrow’s Words: Writing Exercises to Heal Grief, and the digital book Write! Write! Write! 7 Dynamite Writing Exercises for Those Who Want to Write Prose from Personal Experience. She has written articles for Writer’s Digest and The Writer magazine. She hosts the program “In Conversation: Discussions on Writing and the Writing Life” for KPTZ in Port Townsend, WA. Sheila teaches in person and online. You can read her teaching schedule and class descriptions on her online classes page and her inperson seminars page .

Write Scenes From a Long Remembered Time

Take a look at these two scenes from Beverly Donofrio’s Riding in Cars with Boys: It was a Thursday night. I was doing the dishes, my father was sitting at the table doing a paint-by-num­bers, and we were humming “Theme from Exo­dus” together. My mother was wiping the stove before she left for work at Bradlees, Write Scenes From a Long Remembered Time

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Using the Epistolary Form Helps Us Write Meaningfully

The word epistolary comes from the Greek epistol?, which means “letter.” Writers use the letter form in writing personal essays, poems, creative nonfiction and fiction because the form provides a ready-made container to hold an exploration of events and experiences. Writing in the letter form quickly builds intimacy with readers because a letter is addressed to someone Using the Epistolary Form Helps Us Write Meaningfully

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Board Games and Activities Offer Occasions for Writing

In All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten, Robert Fulghum writes about hiding in a pile of leaves in his front yard and not being found by the game’s seeker. He likens this hiding-too-well as a kid to a doctor who was dying of cancer but never told anybody because he didn’t want to Board Games and Activities Offer Occasions for Writing

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The Physicality of Writing Scenes and Characters

Outer story, the physical world, is also its own effect, its own reaction, its own comment. Outer story shows us things, and as the outer story grows and gathers, we can begin to see the constellations of our meanings. There is no need to comment on each facet of a scene. The sunset went from The Physicality of Writing Scenes and Characters

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Openings That Make You Continue Writing

Often, we feel we can’t start writing because we are not inspired. Or we feel that we have become “flat” as writers when we look at what we have written. Here are 10 writing prompts inspired by the opening lines of novels, films and a short story. I believe that working from any of these Openings That Make You Continue Writing

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Openings That Make You Continue Writing

Often, we feel we can’t start writing because we are not inspired. Or we feel that we have become “flat” as writers when we look at what we have written. Here are 10 writing prompts inspired by the opening lines of novels, films and a short story. I believe that working from any of these Openings That Make You Continue Writing

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The Physicality of Writing Scenes and Characters

Outer story, the physical world, is also its own effect, its own reaction, its own comment. Outer story shows us things, and as the outer story grows and gathers, we can begin to see the constellations of our meanings. There is no need to comment on each facet of a scene. The sunset went from The Physicality of Writing Scenes and Characters

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Writing Short, Writing Deep

As a poet and memoirist, I study flash fiction and nonfiction for strategies to write one’s life story in accumulations of short pieces, each evoking important moments and newly learned perceptions that, when collected, present a whole. Abigail Thomas’ What Comes Next and How to Like It, Meri Lisa Johnson‘s Girl in Need of a Writing Short, Writing Deep

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Cognitive Therapy for Writers: Behave Your Way Into Writing

When it comes to writing, we so often undermine our efforts by thinking that we are not disciplined enough, educated enough, smart enough, skilled enough, or wise enough to call ourselves writers. We must find ways to change that thinking if we are to allow writing an important place in our lives. It matters that we Cognitive Therapy for Writers: Behave Your Way Into Writing

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First Readers Help You Know More Than You Thought You Knew About What You Wanted to Say

Are you writing about your life? Finding out the impact of your drafts on readers can help you be brilliant on the page when you revise. Hardly a one of us can make our best contact with the minds and hearts of others without sharing and receving response to early drafts of our work. Here’s First Readers Help You Know More Than You Thought You Knew About What You Wanted to Say

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